Me again. Back for a clarification. No one needs to be upset about me removing the post about how awful the sonogram pictures were. I took it down because I offended the child's mother, not a reader.
I didn't mean to be a bad witch.
Honestly, I was talking about how much the sonogram disapointed me. I was hoping for sweet cuddly baby pictures, I'd heard so much about this new technology. I would never in a billion years say that my grand child was funny looking. I said it was a funny picture.
Sometimes, I say things I think are funny and go too far. I usually see humor everywhere and probably would have buried myself in a ditch somewhere years ago if I couldn't find humor in the world. My family has had lots of ups and downs, I know I've mentioned some of it over the years in my posts. I deal with the world by looking for a silver lining and trying to find the happy spots.
I try to enjoy every minute I can. Life is too short to be petty, insecure, unhappy, or teed off. Life can also be a dangerous and messed up place. So when I get a chance to laugh, I take it. I never mean to offend anyone by being irreverant, or flip. I just see fun smeared all over everything. And I mention it.
I rarely, well actually, I never, stop to think if what I am saying is offensive because it simply doesn't occur to me that it is. Maybe I'm self centered. Maybe I'm shallow. I'll need to be double thinking about this for a while. From my point of view, things are fun and silly and cheerful. But I need to be more sensitve and realize that not everyone sees what I see.
*********Good Witch/bad witch tags by my Sissy************ cute vintage scarecrow note from Sue Stoke*********
Over the past 800 plus posts I've shared a lot with you, which is why I am blathering on about this situation. I figure you deserve an explanation for my deletion and my girl deserves a public apology for me hurting her feelings.
I hope that everyone knows that I adore my family. And I also hope that no one would honestly think that I'd accuse anyone of inapropriate behaviour with clowns. Besides, clown noses are not genetic- they are plastic and stuck on, no clown's child is born that way. It was just me being silly. Oh gosh, I should just shut up…I could be making it worse again.
And some of the photos from the 4D ultrasound were a little better than others. But overall, I have to say that I would not reccomend anyone purchasing these just for baby pictures. With an online coupon, the sonogram still cost me over $150 and the photos were not that great. Plus they are not looked at by a doctor. But, I have been so worried about this child, that I would have paid anything to see her wiggling and kicking around. And even though her face was blurry and I don't know what she'll look like, I am relieved to see that she looked healthy.
Thanks for listening.
Whewy! I missed all the drama. But, I am so glad to hear this girl child is looking healthy! Hugs! ~Mindy
Karla,
I feel like a goof for writing my last comment, I just went off at the thought of a blogger being mean to you. I understand totally what you are saying. I have a sense of humor that often gets me into trouble because I don’t think things thru, & the thing about emails, blogging whatever is that often we can be misunderstood because you can’t hear the way, or the tone of how we are saying things. I can understand the stress you & the kids are under. I’ve been there. I also have a funny 4-D sono that is on my blog. I told everyone it looked like a tropical storm, now that I think about it – it kinda was! You family is very lucky to have such a generous loving Mother as you. Lisa
I love you Karla. Enough Said. . .
xxoo
I think your humor is one of your strong attributes(at least on this blog that i read). Sorry there some bad repercussions, although, I must admit, I missed it and the pictures (darn).
I love sono pictures, cause, really they are kinda funny lookin in the most adorable way.
Feel better and know that your followers would never (yes, I’m speaking for everyone..)
think unkindly of you.
Hugs and Kisses
September
You’re a kind thoughtful person, Karla and you are very sensitive to other peoples feeling. I’m sorry that your words were misunderstood. I am sure that your grand baby will be adorable!
Sandy
Karla,
You are truly one of the most devoted and lovely people I know and what a terrific grandmother you are!! Don’t be so hard on yourself. Love you!! Kana
Sorry Karla that you are dealing with this confusing situation. I know you meant no harm; I hope your new
DIL, accepts your apology and you all can move on. Pregnancy can be stressful and this one definitely is. I am sorry you feel the need to explain yourself. I had this happen on my blog. My husband never reads it and did. HE didn’t like what I said, so I had to hit delete. He was home for a month on leave. I said, it was time for him to go fishing; It was. He gets kind of stir crazy and I didn’t mean it mean, but as one other person commented, We can’t see the body language, during the convo. It is so easy to misconstrue words, but once she gets to know you better, she will know, You didn’t mean any harm~
Oh Karla… please don’t change one aspect of your beautiful creative personality. You are so much fun, always positive, humerous, witty and just sometimes a little kooky!! That’s what we love about you.
Girl, I walk with a limp from sticking my foot in my mouth so many times.
Hopefully, one day in the future, this will be a story for the baby book, but for now I think you made the right decision. You are one cool lady with a capital L!
Debbie
Karla,
I thought it was a cute post, and totally understood what you were saying.
We all know you’re a very, very loving grandma!!!
I think you’re wonderful though, and right, for respecting your dil’s opinion on the subject. HUGS
Those grandbabies are lucky to have you.
‘Nuff said. 🙂
Thank you for the clarification, Karla. It is good to know that you did as always: Doing things out of love and consideration for those who matter most to you – your family. Applause for you! Thank you for being a ‘Good Witch’ in all our lives!
Karla I knew you were kidding as I just did the same thing about the sono on my blog a few months ago..they are just ugly and the baby looks nothing like the real thing…My little great grand that is 3 weeks old today looked like a gang member ha ha!! And he just darling when he was born…there faces are so smashed in those sono it’s hard to tell what they will look like…Your a GREAT grandma and will be to this one also…Hey I love humor and what would our world be without it…that’s the reason I come by here my friend…Take care my friend…Hugs and smiles Gl♥ria
Karla, Anyone who is the Grandmother of Sugar Wings has to be the most fun ever! Your family is lucky to have you and you are the Best, I do love your humor and we know you meant no harm. have a great weekend! Hugs, Marilou
Well, that do beat all… Only thee and me have to apologize for an apology… Hugs and chocolate are all that will work for a thing like this. Be you. We love you.
Ugh!! Family drama can be so fun can’t it! I am so sorry things were taken out of context. Your new grandbaby will be beautiful, just like Sugarwings, and now you will have two little lovelies to play dress up with!!
Karla,
You didn’t mean to offend. Sometimes it just happens. Another is sensitive (or pregnant) and hears something in a hurtful way. This baby will not be born looking like her midterm sonogram! You know (and the baby’s mama knows from watching you with Sugarwings) that you will be a loving grandmother. I am just glad the sweet little child in there looks healthy!
Suz
Karla, You are a dear person and your family is so fortunate to have you! Can’t imagine you aiming to offend anyone, but this is no doubt a stressful time. Once the baby’s here all should be well.
I’ve never been able to see anything in those sonograms; they all look funny to me. The thing I thought was the most interesting about the post, aside from your humorous take, was that they’d have such a high-tech sonogram yet planned a non-assisted home birth. what a juxtapostion (sp?)!
Keep on being YOU, please! You are much loved by many!
My “Dorothy” tags arrived yesterday!!! LOVE THEM!!! So happy I was able to join your swap. YAY, Karla!
Jane-Jacksonville
It’s clear that you already love that little baby.
We are a lot alike, you and me. I have a report card from grade school that says, “Kathleen needs to exhibit more self-control and less talking.” Yeah… I understand. You know who the clowns are? People like you and me. We love to make other people laugh. Sometimes our big, floppy, clown shoes make us trip. – Have a great weekend, Karla.
Kathy
Oh what a sweet clarification! I’m terribly sorry your little DIL was hurt. But as sure as I know what an amazingly fun grandma you are to beautiful Sugarwings, I know very soon she too will see that no disrespect or malace was intended nor directed AT her or that sweet, sure-to-be BEAUTIFUL grandgirl! Chin up & keep looking for the humor & silver-linings!! They are EVERYWHERE!! =D
Sweet Karla! I, too, have spent most of my life laughing because it’s the only way I know to get along. Just 2 days ago a family member at the nursing home looked at me in HORROR because I laughed at a patient’s demented behavior that the visitor thought was “SO SO SAD”. What she just didn’t get is that laughing at the behavior is not laughing at the patient! And if we approached this job as though it were all “SO SO SAD!!!”, we would all be ready for a straitjacket at the end of a 16 hour shift. That said, your audience is mostly a bunch of peri and post menopausal loving mommas and grandmommas who were laughing along with you while oohing and ahhing and thinking how lucky you are to have such a beautiful family! The momma will get used to your sense of humor….eventually!!! Your Friend, Bobbi
If you sometimes resemble the Scarecrows comment, so do I.
If we all thought over the ramifications of every single comment we make we’d still be scratching our heads.
Love to you and yours,
Hugs,
Gerry
We love you xoxoxo
You don’t have a mean bone in your body. Hopefully, DIL is being hormonal and isn’t so easily offended when not pregnant. If not … OIY VEY … it’ll be tough for you and your sense of humor over the years.
I love you Karla. I NEVER thought of you as having bad intentions. I KNOW that you did not mean any harm. You are dearly loved maybe even more than you will ever know and that is why I had my feelings hurt. I am sensitive to you and how you feel towards me and my family. I do not have a mom. I look up towards how great of a mom you are to your own boys, “Sugarwings”, and now “hippy chic” (since she doesn’t have a mom any more either). And so I sometimes…most of the time..tread lightly on expressing how much I am starting to care for you and your precious family. When something happens or…sometimes doesn’t happen I internalize it and wonder why? Sometimes that gets me into trouble emotionally because I don’t “get it” yet. I am still learning your ways. I am still adjusting my sensors…as you are…now. Please ALWAYS know that if my feelings become hurt with something that happens in our lives (which they might)…it just shows that I really care about you. I care about what you write. I care about what you say. I care about what you create. All of it…all of you. So……there……now…when you see that crazy “DIL” give her a hug…because she (and that lil baby inside) loves you to the moon and back!
xoxoxoxo
Christee
Oh, Beth, I think I’m the Queen of Open Mouth, Insert Both Feet! You’re not alone. We all do this at one time or another and I can’t imagine, not knowing you really well, but enough to see that you are a very, very caring and thoughtful person.
Hugs! Diane
Karla! I just have to tell you that my hubby who works in a hospital was just talking about the 4D sonogram. A co-worker had one and he told me that he was looking at it and could not even tell what it was. He said he looked like a little alien. So, you aren’t the only one who thinks the pictures aren’t as clear as they’re supposed to be. I am sure you will have another darling grand baby and I am positive my hubby’s friend won’t have a baby that looks anything like and alien. :oP
I love you Karla!
oh lord, I’m sure no one thought you were being mean. The scan pics aren’t that good, and when I was pregnant, chose not to fork out for the new fangled version as every single one I’d ever seen looked exactly the same! Not every new born looks alike, so I thought it was a waste of money. I get exactly where you were coming from.
(the normal scan pic I have in a frame looks like my little one is in a stripy t-shirt! Of course it’s her ribs showing clearly, but it still gave me a laugh when I saw it!)
The written word always seems completely different to the spoken word. When you say something off the cuff in real life, the tone and situation makes it clear how it was intended. Writing it down in black and white can come across differently, at least that’s what I’ve found out since I started blogging back in 2002. I managed to offend people without meaning to, it’s just being British and writing differently at times came across as being sarcastic or cutting, which wasn’t always the case. I have no doubt at all that your DIL knew you weren’t being horrid or rude, when you’re pregnant you just feel super protective. I’m sure I’d have been the same, even if I’d agreed with the views!
Have a lovely Sunday. Need to come back again soon to have a good catch up. Been busy the past few weeks, so haven’t had much computer time.
xxx
It’s so hard to be misunderstood especially since you meant well and wanted it to be a funny post.
I tend to overthink stuff TOO much!
I have a sweet and creative auntie that you remind me of.
At times she has ruffled family feathers, too.
I know your heart was in the right place 🙂
Have a great rest of your weekend. I’m stressing over getting my first matchbox swap done and mailed out. Eek!
I thought your post was funny and got it as it was meant to be, a poke at the quality of the photo’s not the baby herself! I know how excited and worried you have been about the baby and the babies Mamma… Take Care – Rachaelxo
OH KARLA..I JUST READ YOUR POST..I THINK YOU FOLKS ARE BEATING YOURSELVES UP WAAAY TO MUCH…I HAVE BEEN READING YOUR POSTS FOR JUST OVER A YEAR..ONE OF THE REASONS I READ IT ,IS YOUR HUMOR..WE ARE HERE TO LEARN..EVERYDAY …IREAD YOU DIL REPLY…YOU GUYS ARE FINE..JUST GET YOUR BEAUTIFUL NEW GRANDAUGHTER OUT HERE FOR HER OWN EXPERIENCES…LORRAINE … THOUGHT FOR THE DAY…THE BEATINGS WILL CONTINUE ..UNTIL MORAL IMPROVES….
I THINK PREGNANT WOMEN ARE OVERLY SENSITIVE!!
Karla, This post has really meant the world to me. I have seen how much people like you. I heard an amazing artist seriously compliment your work. I’ve been feeling awfully lonely lately. What you wrote about the way you see the world and your sense of humor just make me feel a lot less alone. Thanks for that unintended gift! And it’s nice to apologize. Doesn’t mean you’re wrong, just that you care about the baby’s mum.
xoxo
~Marilee
I’ve noticed how my own humor doesn’t always translate too well into print. I suppose this is something that most bloggers have dealt with in one way or the other. Your sense of humor and wit are very special attributes, and a big reason you are such a popular blogger. I hope the current situation gets forgotten quickly.
Relax. Everyone must have thought you were joking (and had a point.) Doesn’t mean you aren’t excited, won’t love her, believe she’ll look that way. And if they do, they should get a life. Or a sense of humor.
glad i missed the drama-how could anyone think that you could mean anything with malice. you are such a beautiful caring person and i love the way you are with sugar wings and the pups. don’t go changing a thing-i don’t know you accept through your blog and i can tell that – so someone who really knows you should have known your intentions. so sorry that you suffered from any of the drama and pray all is ok with you and yours. jeanine
I did think it was cute and funny — and we all know how much you love your grandchildren!
just catching up here….
I missed the post with the sonogram pics, but all I can say Karla is that you are one of the most authentic, truly from-the-heart, wonderful people I know. Love you!!
xo andrea