We made a quick trip to Asheville to take Sugarwings to be with her dad and sissy before school started.
Both girls are doing virtual school, which can be done from any place with WiFi. Which means more possible trips during the school year.It seemed smart to let them get settled into the new classes before doing that, though. We wanted to have a visit, and be home before school began.
It was good for them to be together, and play outside. They made three foot high bubbles with a giant wand and modeled for each other with a rainbow light. There was hiking, waterfalls, and a walk through a bamboo forest.
Honestly, between losing Ryan, and trying to cope with the pandemic, we have been failing as grandparents. Sugarwings has had a lonely summer when staying with us, besides a few boat outings, and trips, we are dull on a daily basis.I usually make efforts to take the grand fairies out during summer break.
A typical (non 2020) week would have included daily crafts, one outing to a zoo or discovery zone type place, one afternoon at a movie, and one project. Plus screen viewing breaks for biking, walks in the woods, or some other outdoor activity.There has been a scarcity of guidelines about screen time.
In the past, they were expected to craft while watching the iPad or tv. And to watch a TedEd or nature show on breaks from their regular shows.
This summer?
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Half hearted rules were attempted, but as each week went by, this poor kid was going deeper and deeper into TicTok videos and YouTube, without any interference from me.
Time outdoors, without iPads was just what she needed.
And sister time, was even more necessary.
My husband and I were missing our far away family. Loading up the camper to go see them again meant a lot.
Our son has a new home on an acreage that holds an organic farm.
While it is hard for me to have Adam and Dewdrop so far away, I was comforted by seeing how he lives.
He loves his green building job. And lives in a beautiful place.I miss them terribly, but knowing he is happy makes me happy for him.
Pulling our camper makes it easier to visit, and thanks to Ryan, we can do that.
We purchased the new trailer with Ryan’s insurance check and I consider it his last gift to me. We can travel away from home, but always feel like we have Ry Guy near us.He loved giving me gifts and was always so excited about them that he had a hard time waiting til it was time to pass them out. He preferred giving them to me before the rest of the family came for holidays, because he was such a private person.
The wind chimes he bought for Mother’s Day will always be treasured because they meant so much to him. He and I used to walk around the yard, trying them out in different spots until we found the exact place that got the most breeze for the prettiest sound.
I can just imagine his pride in knowing that he had gifted us with such a nice camper. I hear his voice and feel his love every time we use it.
I’d like to craft a sign to hang in it, in honor of him. For now, there is a photo of him hidden inside the refrigerator door panel. When we purchased the trailer, the fridge doors weren’t complete yet. I taped his picture to the liner of the door and had the technician leave it there when he added the permanent doors.
We also want to bring some wind chimes on our trips, along with some of Ryan’s ashes to sprinkle by the camper each time. He will always be with us when we are on the road.
Lovely post
Karla – Even during normal times we can’t be everything to everyone all of the time, and these certainly aren’t by any definition normal times! You are doing what can be done, and that’s what matters. Your granddaughters are lovely and growing, and will remember the times that you have spent with them.
It sounds as if this was a good trip for all of you. I know the importance of those rituals and inclusions of the heart and soul with those we love who are not in our daily life.. It means so much to stay connected… Your granddaughters are so beautiful. Love is the very best.
Karla, your posts are heart-warming and heartbreaking in their beauty, love of family, and the path you’re treading from grief to whatever comes next. Thank you so much for sharing your life with us all for such a long time. Beautiful images of your trip.